one family's yearlong dare to live their dreams

You’re Invited

Party of 4 drawing Poof! Out of the ether, a blog is born. It is born out of our restlessness, our daydreams, our yearnings, and the toys-on-the-floor chaos of our daily lives. TV Online. Live Television.

We are parents raising our two girls in the artsy, ragamuffin town of Woodstock, New York, about two hours north of New York City. As freelance writers with flexible work lives, we go fifty-fifty in just about everything we do. That means equal childcare, equal housekeeping, equal cooking, equal income-earning. Or roughly equal. We are not anal about it.

We enjoy turning some common stereotypes about parenting on their heads—chiefly, the belief that only mothers can be primary nurturers. (Of course, we are not alone in blasting this myth; there is a growing population of fifty-fifty parents out there. See Lisa Belkin’s 2008 New York Times article, “When Mom and Dad Share It All”). But we do feel the burden of some other pretty pervasive stereotypes about family life.

One of these is the assumption that a life of adventure and self-fulfillment is incompatible with a life with kids. The assumption that once you have a child, life “shrinks to the size of a teacup” (see Jennifer Senior’s captivating cover story in the July 4, 2010 issue of New York magazine, “All Joy and No Fun”). Dreams of biking across France and finally learning to play an instrument take a backseat to changing diapers and filling snack cups with Cheerios.

This kind of assumption makes us squirm in our seats. It makes us want to throw some pureed sweet potatoes against the wall. It makes us want to rebel.

So we’ve decided to start a new project. We’re daring each other to spend an entire year living our dreams—or at least taking some significant steps in their direction—no matter what. This blog will chronicle our journey. And we’re hoping it will inspire some other people out there (maybe you) to live bigger, too.

Welcome to our Party of Four.

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9 Responses to “You’re Invited”

  1. Alicia says:

    Very inspiring! Can’t wait to read more. Thank you for sharing your dreams.

  2. Elizabeth says:

    Congratulations, Wendy (+3)! I can’t wait to read all about your adventures.

  3. Leila says:

    sounds great and bonvoyage!

  4. Jeffrey says:

    Yippee! Let the revolution of rebel rowdy wondrous parents begin!!

    Congratulations, Wendy and Michael and Amelie and Jade. Buckle your seat belts.

    Amelie: You have a good eye for design. I like your drawing.

  5. Alicia M. says:

    If anyone can juggle responsible parenting with living on the edge, it would be the two of you! Looking forward to more posts…

  6. Anna says:

    Looking forward to hearing more…

  7. Peter J. B. says:

    Dear Michael and Wendy:
    Remember what Thoreau says toward the end of “Walden”: I learned this, at least, by my experiment; that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” You’re in the great American tradition of the quest, along with Emerson too, and Melville and Emily Dickinson.
    But it’s also true that Aristotle thought that happiness was activity in accordance with virtue (wisdom, excellence).
    All good fortune on your journey.

  8. Peter J. B. says:

    Hi Again:
    I Wanted to include Gertrude Stein, in my previous comment, to my (short) list of adventurers.

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